All of us handle our kids and family differently. We may notice some unpleasant or great things about how we deal with our issues, but it does not give any one of us the right to judge. Though given the fact that people often end up judging, there’s still nothing they can do about it.
Ideally, people’s idea of parenthood is flawless. It is all about catering to the needs of the children 24/7, taking care of the house chores, providing assistance to the husband, and the list goes on. However, in reality, there’s too much of everything that a mom can handle.
There is always a financial strain, time management stress, social interaction demands, relative complaints, and other people’s unsolicited opinions. But with all that stuff going on around life like forever, there are specific things I will never be sorry for as a mom.
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I Will Never Be Sorry For Spanking My Kids
I understand that this may trigger a lot of butt hurts on the internet. But I will never be sorry for spanking my kids. In fact, I would do it over and over again if I had to. Of course, some may look at it and label it as “child abuse,” but in my perception, I call it “discipline.”
The problem with society nowadays is that they imprinted this idea that spanking kids is a form of maltreatment. Once parents intentionally slightly hurt or punish their kids after committing bad behavior, they are considered the unreasonable ones. But when they think about it, where do that imprinted new-era ideas take us now? Most children nowadays do not know the difference between respect and self-expression.
Don’t get me wrong, the way I look at spanking differs from physical abuse, so I know I shouldn’t worry, unlike other people. I spank my kids because they do not listen. Do not put up crap that the practice of talking to children always works because all parents know it is not always an effective strategy. Some children are just unbelievably hard to deal with, and that can make every parent snap.
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I Will Never Be Sorry For Telling The Truth To My Children
Others don’t get it when I am brutally honest with my kids about my opinion. Yes, I know in most instances, I hurt their feelings often that much. But I will never be sorry for letting them know they are sometimes incapable, unreliable, insecure, and out of boundaries. As a parent, I know my children’s weaknesses and strengths. So people can shut their mouths when I tell my kids the truth they do not want to hear.
The thing is, I am doing my kids a favor. It’s like emotionally and mentally preparing them for the harshness of the world. I don’t sugarcoat because as much as I hate to admit it, it pains me to see that other people will torture my children’s well-being the moment I turn around.
So before my kids experience how things, people, and situations can become difficult to deal with, I tell them straight to their faces. I let them know that life is a battle they need to handle because I know I won’t be there for them all the time.
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I Will Never Be Sorry For Not Always Attending To My Kids’ Needs
Yes, that is right. I will never be sorry for not always being there for my kids. Trigger warning, I insist on not taking their every need seriously. I don’t want to always be there for them because I want them to understand that their mother also needs space. Their mom also needs to rest and recharge her energy for another possible catastrophe the family might deal with in the coming days.
My children need to understand that they can only manage their life by owning up to their responsibilities. Yes, even the household chores are included. They have to learn the basics at home so that they wouldn’t require me to pick up all the pieces for them when they get out there.
That also includes their decisions and social interactions. My kids should know that I will not come to the rescue when they need financial support, especially when it comes to the unimportant things they need. If they want something so bad, they must learn to get it on their own.
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Final Thoughts
The way I treat my children is not different from others. I know some parents also practice the things I do and consider it a therapy for moms. It may not be the most accepted view of today’s generation, but I don’t care. Those are my kids. I may get hated for spanking my kids, hurting their feelings, and not attending to their needs, but that’s okay. I will never be sorry for that. I know that someday despite becoming the world’s hated mom, my children will be the best versions of themselves.